Deepika Padukone, it’s Not Your Choice!!

Deepika Padukone, I watched your video ‘My Choice’, done for Vogue Magazine (Link: I watched it with great expectation, and within first 40 seconds I was left dismayed. Fear of chaotic society, if at all, your thoughts were to be adopted, ran down my spine. After ‘I have got breasts you got a problem’ statement of yours, I thought, this video might have power to give direction to women’s empowerment. Sadly, it lacks vision. It can plainly be put as malarkey.

What you term as mental cage, by most, is termed as rules which discipline the society. The society should not set itself free from that cage, never.

I come from a family where rules apply evenly for all, from youngest to eldest. Everyone is supposed to be in by 8 pm, only excuse for not being in by 8pm is work. All those at home get dinner served at 8pm. We followed this rule as kids and we follow this rule while we too have adult kids. This rule perhaps is one important strand of red thread which runs in family. None of us returns home at 4 am and none is mistaken if he or she returns at six. One returning home at six is welcomed with cheer rather than being tagged meek. Many such rules hold our family cohesively. Many such rules, which you feel cagey about, hold masses together.

It is fair to have a divergent view, you are entitled to that. Society is full of dichotomies and thus progressive. At the same time society saves itself from regression by following socially acceptable behaviour. The dichotomous offshoot which you are preaching upon is regressive.

Oh yes!! Its your choice to have sex or not to have or to have it outside a marriage. But please don’t preach adultery to us. You are a celebrity, what you say has influence on masses (one can see it from the number of views your video has received) thus you need to be more responsible.

Having sex with multiple partners is not empowerment. Breaking the cage of rules and being naked as your soul is also does not help this cause. You can choose to love someone and dump him at will, but if masses follow it, it will be a chaotic society. We are not animals, we behave in socially responsible manner. Our social setup teaches commitment, to add meaning to this commitment people indulge with one partner.

Charity, they say, begins at home. Stop playing second fiddle in movies, will you? Stop acting in movies which objectify you or women, Will you? Preach what you practice.

Much before a girl realises what sex is all about, what falling in love and dumping it means she gets exploited for no reason. A girl who does not get safe passage to her school or college will be empowered by the right to safe passage. A girl who does not go to school, for schools don’t have toilets enters vicious cycle of exploitation by shunning schools. Education will empower women, so will eradication of discrimination between boy and girl. Toilets at home and schools along with accessibility to sanitary napkins will empower women. Sex, freedom of night outs etc figure too far away in list of priority as far as women’s empowerment is concerned.

Your video might have given you professional mileage, but, it has done more bad than good to society. If it is about your personal desires please go head and enjoy, but if its about us then it stinks.


6 Comments (+add yours?)

  1. Christy B
    Jul 24, 2017 @ 00:14:47

    Celebrities really do have a responsibility to their viewers as they can sway opinions easily..

    Liked by 1 person

  2. Sharat Pathak
    Apr 03, 2015 @ 18:10:35

    very well expressed vinay!! she needs to re think.


  3. Vinay Panwar
    Apr 03, 2015 @ 18:03:59

    Bang on. Even I got carried away with the way this video started n ended up in a mess message. Truely n truley desire of single society’s thought process, doesn’t mingle with and as the society we live in which I think is far more broadminded than you to have such preaching and that too by “at some time before to me a kind of icon”. We are not people with the sex free kind of mentality & society where we need to stay under such thoughts.This “My Choice” of yours don’t make any sense to me Deepika Padukone, sorry I had to delete it from my facebook wall. Your depression in which you were/ are is showing predominantly, save yourself buddy.


  4. Sharat Pathak
    Apr 03, 2015 @ 15:43:46



  5. skyavatar
    Apr 03, 2015 @ 15:25:24

    very true…


  6. Tanuj
    Apr 03, 2015 @ 14:56:15

    Bhai..very rightly put…no preaching seriously required from Celebs. To us they carry dual faces and thoughts.

    Liked by 1 person

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