When My Daughter Lost With Dignity

Around the same time last year was the annual sports meet at my 5 year old daughter’s school. She was participating in hurdle race, as she took position for race I knew she was going to lose it. She had practiced well and a week ago her teacher had told me she is very agile and for sure will win the race.

I looked at her face as she smiled back at me, already showing signs of fatigue. I looked at her left hand, just to be sure the IV device is firmly at place. It was fastened at place with bandages and had been a source of continuous irritation for her for last 3 days. It would stay there for another 4 days, assisting antibiotic delivery into her blood stream.

She had been sick for past 7 days, eating sparingly, coughing for most of the time. Three days back doctor had announced she had pneumonia, needed minimum 5 day hospitalisation. Hospitalisation was not a choice, I wanted her to be at school for annual sports meet. Doctor had advised her complete bed rest. In 4 days of sickness, she had shown tremendous resilience. She had been cheerful off and on. She had rebelled against the illness, not letting it take her happiness away. She played and she hugged us whenever she could muster energy. I knew she will be better off at home than at hospital, she indeed was.

“Fighters don’t rest when challenged they just fight back”, I had told her, and she agreed and accepted to run the race.

Get Set Go… said the call, all the finalists dashed, so did my daughter. She was running for herself, not looking at others, not worried how she fared against her competitors. She ran, she coughed, and she was breathless. She was last but one to cross the finish line. She had not laid back, she had fought back.

I saw serenity on her face as she wandered in her own thoughts. She received standing ovation from students, teachers and parents, roar of claps and joy full screaming lasted a few minutes. She blushed, she looked at me with pride, perhaps too young to comprehend the enormity of situation.

“I am sad papa I lost the race”, she had told me, and “I would have won had I been fit.”

“You are the real winner, you did not give up when anyone else would have, it’s important to fight back when cornered”, I had explained. She slept four full hours with her face radiating pride, faith and grit. There is dignity in losing as well, was the lesson she had learnt.

Mission accomplished.







19 Comments (+add yours?)

  1. bhaatdal
    Apr 20, 2016 @ 11:58:24

    I respect your spirit . No doubt you taught her to be strong .


  2. Sharat Pathak
    Apr 20, 2016 @ 11:11:19

    every one in family echoed what you feel. but i wanted her to stretch her self. life will never be kind, we need to be strong.

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  3. bhaatdal
    Apr 19, 2016 @ 16:58:22

    Very well indeed a proud dad and proud daughter. You are very gutsy , I would never allow my daughter to take any such risk as she is more important to me than running in any other race. Hats off to you. Still, I don’t appreciate the act , being a mother .if nething went wrong with her health , you would have cursed yourself whole life ,like you are proud today. Please Don’t mind just the feeling of a selfish mom .

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  4. rajivbakshi
    Mar 31, 2016 @ 10:20:32

    Gift the Book to your daughter & then send me her Pic with the Book for my tweeter ppl


  5. Sharat Pathak
    Mar 31, 2016 @ 10:18:39

    thanx sir, and look forward for your book.

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  6. rajivbakshi
    Mar 27, 2016 @ 17:41:53

    I am more impressed by your daughter losing the race . But highly impressed by her determination to participate in spite of her bad health . She is a fighter . Hope one day you along with your kid daughter read my Book on short stories : Journey from Guwahati to Machhiwara @ 63 . #mission accomplished . #am writing

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  7. Sharat Pathak
    Mar 09, 2016 @ 15:20:46

    True!! Much more to lose. And yes ego before anything else.

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  8. Wandering Soul
    Mar 09, 2016 @ 15:14:09

    Beautiful learning, indeed. There’s more to life winning a race. Like say, losing your ego…. 🙂
    Loved reading this. Well done.

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  9. Sharat Pathak
    Mar 09, 2016 @ 14:54:25


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  10. dhirajanand
    Mar 09, 2016 @ 14:32:23

    Highly inspirational! God bless your daughter.

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  11. shambhavi31
    Mar 09, 2016 @ 13:23:12

    Kudos to you and your daughter! 🙂
    Inspiration indeed

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  12. Shivangi
    Feb 19, 2016 @ 21:07:37

    Beautiful post… Kudos to your daughter!


  13. Sharat Pathak
    Feb 19, 2016 @ 15:59:35


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  14. Alok Singhal
    Feb 19, 2016 @ 15:00:20

    Inspiring, it is not only about numbers all the time.

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  15. Darshith Badiyani
    Feb 19, 2016 @ 14:47:51

    This is terrific 🙂 Goosebumps ❤ Bravo for the young lady 🙂

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  16. Rangelz
    Feb 16, 2016 @ 23:24:15

    Hats off to you and your daughter. She is a real fighter and with someone like you with her, she will turn out to be a lovely human being too. So much of positivity 🙂

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  17. Sharat Pathak
    Feb 16, 2016 @ 18:05:43

    thanx sir, u write very interesting stuff. look forward to read more of your writings.

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  18. Rajagopal
    Feb 16, 2016 @ 17:12:02

    Inspirational Sharat… Give my love to your daughter. And thanks for liking, commenting on my post and following, in turn connecting me to your world…best wishes.

    Liked by 1 person

  19. dilipnaidu
    Feb 15, 2016 @ 14:29:40

    Inspiring indeed. Wishing your daughter all the best.

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