Even The Goddess Bleeds

Talaq, talaq, talaq and its over. Not happy with this, beat her, burn her alive for dowry, don’t talk to her for days, when she menstruates call her impure, ask her to kill her own image in her womb ………. You can do all this and much more, and she will take it all silently, rather with a smile. If she resists all this, you can call her many despicable names and people are waiting to buy your thoughts and look at her from corners of their eyes and with a deplorable grin.

Who allows triple talaq, its her, who lets you beat her, its she herself, who allows you and your family to treat her like an unwanted piece of old worn of piece of furniture, none other than herself. Once a woman is divorced, widowed or despised by family, the society looks at her with lustful eyes, calling ugliest names, she meekly and silently endures it and we shamelessly continue to do it.

This is how the society is, it accepts even the most inhuman behaviours, and over a period of time such things become new normal. Such normal won’t change till the time victim herself stands up against it. Such beliefs get the stamp of authenticity when they are coloured in religious colours.

An oppressive belief is if a woman is bleeding and prays the deity can get annoyed with her, let it be so. Finally, it’s between the woman and the deity himself. It’s been argued, the serenity and tranquillity of sanctum sanctorum get vitiated with her presence, but, none argues that the same serenity and tranquillity gets even more vitiated when a man with lustful eyes looks at the women in same sanctum sanctorum. It gets vitiated when you enter the religious places with all kinds of vices in mind. It also gets vitiated when you pray to the deity for some material things than being one with the deity himself. It gets vitiated when one seeks power than humility when praying. But none talks about it. We are more concerned with biological phenomenon because we have long back forgotten that connection with God is about mind and soul, physical presence and biological processes are just inconsequential incidences.

For that matter, even the Goddess bleeds. Kamakhya temple at Guwahati is based on this belief only self. It’s believed that the Goddess bleeds for 3-4 days a year. The waters of Brahmputra around the temple turns red, and strangely when She bleeds, She too is out of bounds for people, though the red water is distributed as Prasad. This exposes our hypocrisy, yet in the name of religion everything can be overlooked. This is direct measure of the kind of oppression we subject half the population of our society.

Allowing men to say talaq three times and divorce a woman and denying he same right to woman is another sign of oppression, and the argument that the men are wiser and will make fair judgement and the women can’t, shows how deeply the oppressionist mind-set has impacted us.

Ladies first, is another signal of deep rooted regressive mind set and has been accepted by all with gaiety.

The ‘wonders’ of oppression are just the tip of the iceberg.  Oppression happens in myriad ways. But the society isn’t going to move away from it till the time women don’t stand-up for themselves. Women have to shut every ogling eye, they have to refuse to accept torture in name of family honour and harmony.  Women have to enter the sanctum sanctorum of Sabarimala as they did enter Shani Shignapur.

Women will have to say talaq three times and end their miseries which the institution of oppressive marriages inflicts upon them. Women have to take pride in the biological cycles and not get maltreated due to them. But, before that the Bleeding Goddess has to herself get freed from oppression.

Religions and societies can’t be static, which will push both, religion and society to oblivion. Both have to be progressive, making way to new normal and shunning the old normal which personifies oppression.  How can a society be progressive and prosper where half its population is oppressed, abused, mistreated and ignored? How can a society be progressive where half the population refuses to stand up for itself?

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7 Comments (+add yours?)

  1. Somali K Chakrabarti
    Nov 08, 2016 @ 08:29:01

    Very well put. It is not only about women standing up against men but about challenging the collective mindset of the society.

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  2. Christy B
    Oct 22, 2016 @ 02:41:40

    So sad about the oppression of women. Thank you for taking a stand against it.

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  3. Sharat Pathak
    Oct 20, 2016 @ 09:42:20

    Thanx for stopping by, it would have been better had u identified your self.

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  4. writeshefali
    Oct 20, 2016 @ 04:02:46

    Nice article… totally agree it’s us woman who have to stand up against oppression n not accept everything as a law of society 👍🏼

    Liked by 1 person

  5. ajaypoetry
    Oct 19, 2016 @ 18:10:05

    Very nicely written, a subtle message

    Liked by 1 person

  6. Anonymous
    Oct 19, 2016 @ 17:06:25

    Very nice

    Like

  7. Shreya Sharma
    Oct 19, 2016 @ 15:56:08

    This is a great article. Worth-reading.

    Liked by 1 person

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